Today my inner cup of gratitude broke wide open. I requested support from my family, friends and Facebook contacts and it came flooding at me so fast that in the overflowing of gratitude it busted…. time to get a bigger cup!
This analogy got me thinking…where else have I set a “cap” on how happy, successful, healthy, rich, blessed, I can actually stand?
I remember when my husband and I purchased our first home, we ordered some up grades and I was strong in making sure things were done right, so much so that I had them re-do three major events in the house because they were not what I needed. Even a bench they had built in my shower, that was a work of art, I had to ask them to redo because it was positioned totally wrong if I wanted to get clean, function over beauty was essential in this case.
No matter that I was “right” and I know that the crew had more than a few “choice” names for what they would have called me. I stood up for myself, which was great. Interesting to notice that on the first anniversary of our house purchase it occurred me that I had held an unconscious repetitive thought- I was waiting for the “real” owners of this perfect home to come a knocking and tell me that we could leave, we were done house-sitting!
What is so amazing about these examples is that I was walking around unaware or unconscious of how low I had determined my deserve-ability set point to be. In his most recent book “The Big Leap” Gay Hendricks calls this issue “the upper limit problem.” When we attempt to grow our business, our health, our bank account, our relationships, or anything we value in our lives, we sometimes get in our own way, by setting an invisible glass ceiling or blind spot that we keep hitting over and over again, until it comes into our conscious awareness, like for me today. When I felt that split second of “I can’t believe this is happening!” to wow, I’m blessed, I have worked hard and my loved ones are dancing right along with me, how cool is that?
Just the other day, I got a gift in the mail from my sister. She had created a t-shirt with a quote from my first published work on it. My own words on a t shirt-wow! I teared up when I recognized her thoughtfulness. I finally get it, I am getting better at being consciously deserving of happiness, friendship, support, success and love. And yes, it has to be said, I’ve got the t-shirt to prove it.
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